MiMi
01-20-2010, 09:44 PM
You might think you know what women want, but are you sure you’re not buying into some commonly believed myths? Look, you could assume women want you to be super macho, wax lyrical about your feelings and ditch your female friends, but guess what? Myth, myth and myth.
Here are some things women (really) don’t want in a partner or relationship, and what turns their interest on instead.
Myth No. 1
Women want to talk
It’s a known fact that women like to talk -- a lot. In fact, research even points to how a woman uses 20,000 words a day compared to a man’s 7,000. Although you might think such info means women want to wrestle you into hour-long conversations, the truth is they just want you to listen to them talk. See, it’s much more important to her that you hear her out instead of warble back uninterested remarks.
So, instead of whining about how you don’t feel like chatting about your day, all you have to do is open your ears and hand her the invisible mic.
Myth No. 2
Women want macho men
When you and your woman are at a club and some random guy hits on her, you might think that she wants you to stand up to the plate and rustle the offender up a bit until you and the guy get Tasered by security. However, that just makes you look possessive and crazy, which makes her feel embarrassed. Yes, women want manly men who know their way under the hood of a car and can manage a household budget, but they aren’t impressed by a flashy show of macho behavior -- so leave the bar brawls to Brody Jenner, please.
Myth No. 3
Women want to hear about your feelings
Many women have said they want men who will open up about their feelings. So we welcomed the metrosexual trend, which was not only about men packing on the moisturizer but also about lowering the fortress on their sensitive sides. That’s fine and well, but don’t open your emotional floodgates just for the sake of it or if it’s not your style. When women whine about wanting a man who expresses his feelings, they’re really saying that they want a man who’ll talk about his thoughts and opinions. That makes her feel more included in your world and helps her get to know you. It doesn’t mean she expects any badly written poetry or crying sessions either.
Myth No. 4
Women want to be the center of your life
Now we’re hitting a touchy topic. You know what it’s like: You start dating a girl and the next minute she’s expecting to see you all of the time, trying to control your free time and wanting to be the main player in your life. Honestly, real, confident women don’t want to be the center of your life. They are most attracted to men who already have full lives -- friends, activities they love pursuing, passions, and interests. If you revolve your life around her, it can be a turn-off because then you come across as desperate or like you have no life. So, sure, go on and give her a starring role, but don’t make her the only character starring in the skit -- she’ll get bored under the blinding spotlight.
Myth No. 5
Women want you to ditch your female friends
Platonic friendships outside of the relationship can be tumultuous, but your girlfriend isn’t bothered that you have female friends. Rather, she probably likes it because it shows her you’re well-balanced and know how to understand women. Not only do you have experience being there during female-related tough times and breakdowns, but if your female friends actually like you it means you know how to relate to women. This is important if you expect to have a relationship with one, you know.
Myth No. 6
Women want to be treated equally
Your Beyoncé-listening, independent girlfriend probably comes across as uber-strong, however, if you start treating her like she can fix her own kitchen sink or buy herself flowers, then you’re in trouble. See, just because she is capable of looking after herself doesn’t mean you should lose your gentlemanly ways. And yes, this holds true even if your woman is a loud and proud feminist.
What women mean when they demand equal treatment is that they want you to understand they can do things on their own and they don’t need a man around. And hell, they expect you to know this. However, they never inform you of the feminist disclaimer (probably to save face). They do want to be looked after and treated with chivalry when a man comes along because it makes them feel special. They just don’t want to have to tell you.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_300/380_myths-about-what-women-want.html
Here are some things women (really) don’t want in a partner or relationship, and what turns their interest on instead.
Myth No. 1
Women want to talk
It’s a known fact that women like to talk -- a lot. In fact, research even points to how a woman uses 20,000 words a day compared to a man’s 7,000. Although you might think such info means women want to wrestle you into hour-long conversations, the truth is they just want you to listen to them talk. See, it’s much more important to her that you hear her out instead of warble back uninterested remarks.
So, instead of whining about how you don’t feel like chatting about your day, all you have to do is open your ears and hand her the invisible mic.
Myth No. 2
Women want macho men
When you and your woman are at a club and some random guy hits on her, you might think that she wants you to stand up to the plate and rustle the offender up a bit until you and the guy get Tasered by security. However, that just makes you look possessive and crazy, which makes her feel embarrassed. Yes, women want manly men who know their way under the hood of a car and can manage a household budget, but they aren’t impressed by a flashy show of macho behavior -- so leave the bar brawls to Brody Jenner, please.
Myth No. 3
Women want to hear about your feelings
Many women have said they want men who will open up about their feelings. So we welcomed the metrosexual trend, which was not only about men packing on the moisturizer but also about lowering the fortress on their sensitive sides. That’s fine and well, but don’t open your emotional floodgates just for the sake of it or if it’s not your style. When women whine about wanting a man who expresses his feelings, they’re really saying that they want a man who’ll talk about his thoughts and opinions. That makes her feel more included in your world and helps her get to know you. It doesn’t mean she expects any badly written poetry or crying sessions either.
Myth No. 4
Women want to be the center of your life
Now we’re hitting a touchy topic. You know what it’s like: You start dating a girl and the next minute she’s expecting to see you all of the time, trying to control your free time and wanting to be the main player in your life. Honestly, real, confident women don’t want to be the center of your life. They are most attracted to men who already have full lives -- friends, activities they love pursuing, passions, and interests. If you revolve your life around her, it can be a turn-off because then you come across as desperate or like you have no life. So, sure, go on and give her a starring role, but don’t make her the only character starring in the skit -- she’ll get bored under the blinding spotlight.
Myth No. 5
Women want you to ditch your female friends
Platonic friendships outside of the relationship can be tumultuous, but your girlfriend isn’t bothered that you have female friends. Rather, she probably likes it because it shows her you’re well-balanced and know how to understand women. Not only do you have experience being there during female-related tough times and breakdowns, but if your female friends actually like you it means you know how to relate to women. This is important if you expect to have a relationship with one, you know.
Myth No. 6
Women want to be treated equally
Your Beyoncé-listening, independent girlfriend probably comes across as uber-strong, however, if you start treating her like she can fix her own kitchen sink or buy herself flowers, then you’re in trouble. See, just because she is capable of looking after herself doesn’t mean you should lose your gentlemanly ways. And yes, this holds true even if your woman is a loud and proud feminist.
What women mean when they demand equal treatment is that they want you to understand they can do things on their own and they don’t need a man around. And hell, they expect you to know this. However, they never inform you of the feminist disclaimer (probably to save face). They do want to be looked after and treated with chivalry when a man comes along because it makes them feel special. They just don’t want to have to tell you.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_300/380_myths-about-what-women-want.html