Sexual Compatibility

[Chelle]

How important is the need to be sexually compatible? Can you overlook this if everything else is on point? Do you think it can be worked on like any other aspect of a relationship? Is sexual incompatibility a deal breaker?







I think it's very important but it's hard to know just how compatible sexually you are until some time is passed. People talk a good game and some say they want it all the time, but when presented with it, can't do it.

[MiMi]

I think it's at least 30% of a relationship. I mean for me if I'm not feeling you sexually or aren't satisfied then i won't want to have sex with you which means that the relationship will suffer because that aspect is missing.

[The God of War]

I'd probably say it's about 20-25% value in a relationship. While it's not the end all be all, it still holds a lot of weight.

And yesh, I am encountering problems with that now. We are working on it, and it is a work in progress. I would rather work on that than to flat out give up at the first sign of a problem happening. I think it's the consequences of being around my SO too long, to where I've lost focus of the little things and worry about the big picture scenario.

[Deuce]

On some real shit, I've learned that sex isn't everything. The sex can be great but if it's with someone that has a shitty attitude or isn't on your level mentally, all that shit goes out the window. On the flip side of that coin, you can have someone that has everything but a good sex game and you can stay with that person for other reasons and work on the sex over time. People can change how they do things in the bed but personalities seem to stay the same no matter how much someone says they try to work on it.

[Black2Great]

ill go wid about 30%

[SchlongstaJ]

It's important enough. I think it falls under compatibility in general. Can it be worked on? Sure. It's not a deal breaker for me, but I say that with the experience of not having it be an issue in my relationships *knock on wood*

[xconcepts]

I'd say about 30-35%. I've been in a relationship where the sex sucked and that was able to be worked on. I've also been in a relationship where sex was very rare and that just fucked everything up in the relationship.

[Chelle]

I think it's more important than people realize. Think about those relationships when you wanted to have sex and your partner didn't. After a while, it became a drag to keep asking, knowing you weren't going to get it. I think sexual compatibility is the reason why a lot of people end up seeking sex outside of their relationship and in turn end marriages for infidelity.

[Da Eman]

Sex comp. is important only if sex is on the top of your priority list. If sex isn't a big deal for you then it really doesn't matter. I know for myself, my past relationships didn't always include the most compatible sex partners...needless to say, the relationship was cool because of other more important factors like their personalities. Now when I did upgrade in the sex compatibility area, this was considered to be primarily a major bonus, but not a requirement.