The Ex-Files

[MiMi]

So I was hanging out with my ex's sister today. I've known her and the rest of the family for 10 years. When she drinks she talks a lot so I found out a lot of information. I jokingly say that i'm their favorite but she told me today that I really am and that all his girlfriends after me had to deal with the issue of measuring up to me.

She told me that she would actually bring my name up in converation to see if they would say something so that she could go off on them. She would constantly say "If MiMi was here she'd do it", "MiMi" "MiMi" "MiMi".... to the point he'd have to explaing who this mysterious MiMi was. She has no issue with letting them know that she'd rather him be with me than them. They don't like his current girlfriend who is pregnant by him right now and the only thing that they ever say about her is she keep a nasty house and she don't speak to them.

I say all of this to say. Have you ever had to deal with a family who still wanted their family member to be with an ex and had no problem expressing that to you? How'd you handle it? Did the relationship last or fail?

[Deuce]

Uhhh no. Personally, I think its kinda immature and ignorant to keep bringing up an ex to someones new SO. Seriously what's the point? Because they like the ex? Sounds like HE/SHE might have a thing for you. Its a total lack of respect and at the end of the day, the ex is old news. Seeing as how this person has a new SO, they've obviously moved on and the family member who is bumping their gums about the ex needs to do the same. A new SO who would listen to it or even care is just as retarded.

[MiMi]

Lol. I was thinking the same thing as I was being told this. I mean an ex may come up in conversation from time to time but to purposely try to annoy them is mean as hell. I even said long as that person is happy, bot in your house and what they do together doesn't have any affect on your life who cares who they're with.

[Chelle]

I agree with the immaturity thing, especially since she's with child. It's obvious they are going to be in each other's lives so why not make the road as less bumpy as possible.

My fam used to ask about my ex all the time because they really loved dude, but they soon realized, I didn't want to talk about it and to let it go.

[MiMi]

My mom still does that about a dude that I dated in high school. I never told her that he was abusive so she thinks he was a good dude. Like we came back across each other last year and we chat every once in a while but I'll never forget how our relationship was...

[his drug of choice]

My ex's family still asks about me, but that's because I was with him for 8 yrs, and he's still single, and I'm still single. So, maybe they think something is going to happen. NEGATIVE.

My ex and I still keep in contact with each other, and even hang out sometimes. We had a very volatile relationship, which is one reason I ended it with him, but we are at two different places in our lives. I've forgiven, but that doesn't mean I'm going to forget. I refuse to go back.

He and my mom still communicate, which is fine with me, as long as they don't talk about me...which they don't.

[The God of War]

I kept my exes away from my family, for my protection. I look at it this way. If I'm serious about you, you will meet my family. Otherwise, no. Don't even ask.

And only two of my exes met my family, mainly because they already knew them. And I'm certain they have no contact with my fam. If they do, then they definitely don't talk about me.

[brokeas]

I say mimi still has feeling for dude.. but then again i could be wrong.. OR maybe they just don't like the other girls he dates

[MiMi]

Nope they just don't like them... I didn't even know till she started dranking and started talking... Lol

[Da Eman]

hmmm well i guess i can't really relate to this as much because i've been in your shoes, Mimi... Unfortunately, i'm usually the measuring stick for my ex's new bf's .... It sucks cuz even after 5 years my ex's mom still gives her hell for her current b/f and says that she should've married me...

But hypothetically, if i were in that position where the fam kept tellin' me about some other dude, i'd correct them on the spot. No need to allow that stuff to go on and let people get comfortable talking down to you like that. I'd let them know that i am my own standard, since i am my own person...if they don't like it, they can speak amongst themselves cuz i wouldn't wanna hear it....Drop the mic and then walk out the door...that's how i do things.